Magical Mystery Tour

This story is about love, all the good ones are.  And forgiveness.  Before there was that, an incredible amount of wrong-doing happened, because it seems we always hurt the ones we love most, don’t we?  As I type on this wintry night in Colorado, the coyotes howl right outside my back door, the sky darkest ink on this new moon.  The last few months have been a blur – a kaleidoscope of beautiful experiences colliding into one another and creating a smear of bright colors.  I haven’t had the time to stop and fully reflect on each moment and give them the time they deserve.  Each experience is worthy of its own chapter, so perhaps this post is just an outline for future writings, each experience building upon the next and setting the stage.  Here goes the continuous stream of miracles:

December 11th, my 50th birthday.  Friends gathered and a book was presented to me, with photos and writings from loved ones.  My god-daughter fanning me in the native american tradition with a hawk’s wing, her beautiful mother holding the smoldering cedar.  That night, on that birthday, for whatever reason, I was able to receive all the love directed my way and feel full.

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Early January,  Varanasi, India – under a full moon, on a sandbar in the Ganges, sitting with friends and strangers around a fire, I chant prayers for others, for my family, for myself, and make offerings with sweets, flowers and incense.  Of all my experiences in India, this remains one of the most generous and beautiful ones and I come back to it in my mind again and again.  I am not always given the gift of knowing how special something is in the moment, and this was one of those moments, one to remember and re-tell.

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Mid January, Rishikesh, India I dipped in the frigid waters of Mata Ganga (Mother Ganges) with my 80 year old mother.  The night before I had led our group through a Kundalini yoga kriya called the Hour of Your Death and the next morning I led us in a rebirthing.  Smiles were wide, hearts were light and my mother and I embraced in the yoga room as everyone danced to Here Comes The Sun by George Harrison.  My birth had not been an easy one 50 years prior and this day felt like a do-over for both of us.  We all took our newly born selves down to the water for a dip.  There was a chilly fog that made things look even more mystical than they already felt.  I felt like daughter and mother all in one, watching over my mother gripping the chain in the rushing water.  We submerged, coming up baptized.

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Early February, Boulder, Colorado.  My daughter came home for the first time in 10 months.  The breath I had been holding all this time, slowly exhaled as I felt her presence once again in my house, heard her voice, followed her trail of clothes.  She was home for a family occasion, the Bar Mitzvah of my son, her brother.  Family and friends came to witness this rite of passage.  My children’s father and I, divorced now for 11 years, put aside old quarrels and came together, united in our love for our children.  My husband (of almost 10 years) and I shyly presented ourselves at a family dinner where I would see friends and relatives that I hadn’t seen or spoken to since the divorce.  Both grandfathers have died in the past 11 years and they were honored and spoken of.  Both grandmothers are alive and well and graced us with their presence.  In front of the congregation and our community, I released my baby and blessed him into manhood.  Symbolic of course, but powerfully potent like all ritual can be.  I felt it.  He did too.

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Last weekend, family therapy at my daughter’s school.  My ex-husband, my husband, my daughter and son and me.  We all showed up with vulnerability and an unflinching commitment to do our work.  There were moments of despair, pain, tears and also such compassion and tenderness.  The weekend was deep and hard.  The weekend was light and  full of love.  Forgiveness was the oil that kept us all on track, even if sometimes we looked like the most sorry-assed jalopy on the lot.  On the last night, before I had to leave, I held my daughter for over an hour, stroking her hair and singing to her.  Rearranging my DNA.  Deeply comforting.  Another rebirth.  Our own ceremony.

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About Roxanna Smith

Exploring the world of living, loving and grieving with an open heart.
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8 Responses to Magical Mystery Tour

  1. okilloran says:

    Beautiful. The last paragraph – and the tender picture – brought tears. Blessing you both.

  2. lynneatherton7 says:

    I am excited, touched, honored to be included in your beautiful blog…which I hadn’t yet read when I called earlier to ask if you’re feeling well enough to travel…

    • lindjoy says:

      Roxanna – this is a deeply touching remembrance eagerly shared with your friends and family. I could literally feel vibrations as I was “being there” with you. I sense your
      sincere and peaceful quest for healing. May the truth of your experiences stay with you always. Sent with love. shirley

  3. nancygentry says:

    awww….I can’t want to show Ama! I loved the pictures of you and your Mom in the Ganges…burrr…you were brave! By the end of this post, I had tears. Thanks for sharing all your gratitude. xoxo

  4. rajni1love says:

    Sounds like your family is going through some deep healing! So happy for you & thanks for sharing!

  5. Lee says:

    I’ve got tears in my eyes. You have so many gifts Roxanna. I love all of the pictures, but the first one with your Mom and how you are looking at her, is so touching. I love you.

  6. Such an amazing journey, thank you for opening your heart and sharing! As always you inspire and amaze! Xx

  7. Grace Hinrichs says:

    All very beautiful and touching, both images and sentiments. You have a lovely sense of the meaning of rituals, like your Mom, Roxanna. Affectionately, Grace (an old friend of your Mom’s from your parents’ days in Maine 50 years ago when you were born! I remember those days well)

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