This Aint No Dress Rehearsal!

Pure Joy

Pure Joy

This picture makes me happy – I’ve got my sparkly, Free People dress on.  My favorite color is turquoise and my scarf makes me look like I’m flying, and it’s 4th of July (one of my most favorite days*)  and I’m at the beach!

In Santa Cruz!

So I don’t usually use the word ‘aint’ but it just fits.  I was looking through my journal from the past year.  I am noticing that my journal is a much better resource than it used to be.  I am more discerning about what I write.  I write down my dreams and prayers more than the daily minutiae.  It’s satisfying when I see progress (forward movement) on some of my desires.  For example, last year, I hadn’t completed any hospice training and this year, I volunteer for two local hospice organizations.

In a journal entry from last February, 2012, I wrote:  “At Lili’s School of Rock show there was a little girl who was singing the lead in one of the songs.  She seemed wooden and stone faced.  The little girl in me was dying to grab her mic and belt it out.  I wanted to be the rock star!  All my life!  And I heard a voice in my head saying “This isn’t a dress rehearsal.”  And I got it.  I want to LIVE as if THIS is my LIFE and I’m the STAR and we’re rolling film right NOW!  What would look different?”

Ok, it’s a little embarrassing to share my journal, and yes, I did write all of that and use CAPS for emphasis and all those exclamation points!!!  And I do want to qualify that I don’t really want to be a rock star, I just want to star in my own life.  I want to show up and live each day like it’s not a dress rehearsal.  I know that could sound corny…but here’s the thing…

When you are around people who are dying, especially young people in their 40’s who have lovers and young children, and exciting career possibilities, you start to think about life and the impermanence of it.  The preciousness of it.  When Lance died, one of the messages I got was that I never, ever wanted the people in my life to wonder if I loved them.  I wanted to live each day loving my people and letting them know it.  I also want to celebrate life and hold the knowledge that it doesn’t last forever.  I asked myself in my journal “What would look different?” which is a really juicy question to ask oneself.  What would look different?  The things I can think of right now are I would live by the ocean, I would have a BLUE BUS all tricked out to explore the Golden State of California, I would swim with dolphins more, I would travel in a gypsy caravan of women and children all over the world, dancing, singing, drumming, praying, laughing, loving.  What about you?

My Blue Bus...the Blue Pearl

My Blue Bus…the Blue Pearl

*I always spent it with my grandparents in Narrangansett, Rhode Island, at the beach, with no alcoholic parents to mess it up.

About Roxanna Smith

Exploring the world of living, loving and grieving with an open heart.
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9 Responses to This Aint No Dress Rehearsal!

  1. Linda says:

    Gypsy runs deep in my blood. I’ll join your caravan any day!! 🙂

  2. robink2 says:

    Baby breach heading out with both feet
    Blind to life and off to seek
    Power patience saught
    Where sea and land meet are caught

    I love that photo too!

  3. so good to hang out with you yesterday – I was thinking about you this morning. You are beautiful inside and out. Please keep writing…your poems are soul openers.

  4. rajni1love says:

    Love it!

    Rajni Ouroboros, the wandering gypsy

    Follow our blogs at: http://rajni1love.wordpress.com/ http://sdasdona.wordpress.com/

  5. sue says:

    Yes to JOY! Nice to witness the fruits of using death as an advisor. Made me think of this quote (sent out on the latest TRU mailing):

    “Death is more universal than life;
    everyone dies but not everyone lives.”
    –A. Sachs

    Like thinking in terms of, “What would look different?” I want in on that gypsy caravan too. Maybe I need to stop contemplating selling my little white pearl… Sounds like someday day I may want to make a road trip or two to that beach.

  6. rajni1love says:

    Hi Lovelies,

    I’m not sure how I got on this persons list. And I’ve not checked into it too much further but I thought of the three of you whom Blog more regularly and eloquently than I..

    Hope you have a beautiful Sunday!

    Blessings, Rajni Lerman

    *Gaia Services* http://www.gaiaservices.net *Professional Organizer*

    *Certified KRI Kundalini Yoga Teacher Essential Oils*

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